I believe one of my life’s challenges has been to create valued and meaningful relationships with others. In my creativity, I would like\u00a0there to be recognition of valued fulfillment in the lives of those others that my creativity encompasses, encircles, includes or affects. I would like for all that I do to be recognized as valued and appreciated. And, I’d like it to be\u00a0immediate! No small accomplishment and it is NOT a trivial thought of little consequence.<\/p>\n
I find myself saying: I\u00a0am not complete if\u00a0my creativity\u00a0is NOT recognized by others as value fulfilling to them too. \u00a0I find I feel bad when others don’t appreciate or even worse if they reject my efforts to share or bring what I value to\u00a0their lives.<\/p>\n
Where do these ideas and thoughts come from? \u00a0Do such truly represent reasonable<\/em> expectations for a value fulfilling life of meaningful experiences?<\/p>\n I have thought a lot about the dilemma of creative\u00a0expressions NOT\u00a0being accepted by others\u00a0as it seems to be an often reoccurring theme with many\u00a0of\u00a0whom I relate; be they found\u00a0at work, home,\u00a0on the street, or most unexpectedly, even with peers that seem to share my\u00a0common passion for understanding the nature of personal fulfillment and how we improve upon it.<\/p>\n I\u00a0recognize: the\u00a0acceptance of\u00a0others is an\u00a0external mandate and beyond my control<\/em>. I\u00a0shouldn’t let anything out of my control affect the\u00a0enjoyment I feel in\u00a0expressing myself. Yet, my negative reactions to their non-acceptance shows me I am obviously placing value in such\u00a0acceptance and feeling loss when I don’t find it. Believing\u00a0fulfillment resides in something\u00a0beyond my control is a limiting belief.\u00a0I know I should know better.\u00a0I have a mission.<\/p>\n I recognize a need for understanding the beliefs that\u00a0lie beneath my less than full enjoyment in creative expressions.<\/p>\n External Mandates<\/strong><\/p>\n To define\u00a0personal enjoyment as contingent upon acceptance by\u00a0others seems\u00a0a sure formula for disappointment. It will certainly bring less\u00a0than fulfilling results. External mandates will fail to always provide personal fulfillment anytime\u00a0they depend upon value perceptions of others. Especially when I recognize my values are quite different and possibly\u00a0foreign\u00a0to my\u00a0own value\u00a0beliefs. I know many are ignorant of the\u00a0factors I used in developing\u00a0the values I have come to believe true.<\/p>\n To say\u00a0it’s a limiting belief is putting\u00a0it mildly. In\u00a0the fullest extent of potential effects, I\u00a0find\u00a0the depths of despair, and possibly the\u00a0depth of disenheartenment known in slavery. I\u00a0find in this\u00a0a\u00a0state of mind that isn’t very fulfilling. Such a\u00a0limiting\u00a0belief must have originated at a time when the recognition of others was held in very high esteem.<\/p>\n I now recognize such a belief\u00a0is impeding the full enjoyment\u00a0of my value fulfillment. This is an important point that must not be ignored. This belief needs to be reconsidered and changed.<\/p>\n There is an old saying that goes; follow the money to understand the truth behind what happens. When I follow the money, I\u00a0find such\u00a0ideas likely evolved from propaganda and the development of psychological\u00a0devices created for the purpose of\u00a0enslavement and holding those that fall prey\u00a0in bondage to someones’\u00a0ignoble desires to\u00a0plunder the\u00a0creativity of others.<\/p>\n In actuality\u00a0it goes far deeper than just steeling ones energy and creativity, it has been developed and evolved to the point where to day it affects our very purpose for\u00a0being. It affects our personal enjoyment of life by perversion of what we value as a\u00a0fulfilling life.<\/p>\n To mandate external acceptance as required\u00a0for personal\u00a0fulfillment is\u00a0incredibly\u00a0sinister. \u00a0For the mandate\u00a0clothes itself in what appears as a nobel objective while it\u00a0captivates our creativity at the\u00a0very foundation of what motivates our actions and the development of a fulfilled being and a\u00a0fulfilling life .<\/p>\n Call it altruism, benevolent works, charity or a commitment to furthering the advancement of humanity; It doesn’t matter. \u00a0If the enjoyment of creative\u00a0expression is limited by a secondary pursuit; If accomplishment of any desired endeavor is not considered complete and unfulfilling until\u00a0an external\u00a0judge provides approval, the system is flawed. It\u00a0will always stifle and smother individual creativity. Creativity will cease if it is\u00a0bridled with a\u00a0externally\u00a0mandated prerequisite that is ignorant of the perspective of the individual trying to make creative expression. Pure creativity is controlled and severely limited if an external influence must always give its approval.<\/p>\n If an external prerequisite bars\u00a0personal enjoyment of creative expression, then the\u00a0mind has been captured and ensnared. An external\u00a0mandate thwarts the\u00a0creativity of the individual if the external judge doesn’t hold the same values. With belief in an external mandate, the mind and creativity is held ransom at the mercy\u00a0of some one elses\u00a0values.\u00a0Possibly hostage to someone else’s fulfillment, but always\u00a0at the sacrifice of our own. Beliefs limiting value fulfillment to external approval must be eliminated by our understanding the flawed contradiction\u00a0such beliefs have to our own value fullfillment.<\/p>\n Value Fulfillment<\/strong><\/p>\n No society will ever raise itself up by the sacrifice of\u00a0individual value\u00a0fulfillment. We can NOT sacrifice individuals for the supposed “benefit\u00a0of the whole” when that whole is\u00a0comprised of the same such sacrificed individuals. The\u00a0“whole” can\u00a0only be benefited and raised up when the individuals that comprise\u00a0that “whole” are benefited and raised up.<\/p>\n I have come to the realization that first and foremost, \u00a0personal\u00a0enjoyment<\/strong> <\/em>of value fulfilling creative expression MUST be primary. It must NEVER be contingent upon others valuing, appreciating or even understanding what is\u00a0creatively expressed.<\/p>\n Value<\/strong><\/p>\n While the primary objective\u00a0in\u00a0taking action may be to bring fulfilling value to another or others in the mass of our human society,\u00a0one should never in a kind of pride in false humility<\/em><\/strong> pretend that they do NOT also bring\u00a0value fulfillment to themselves in doing so.<\/p>\n Nor should anyone\u00a0be so ignorant of their mind and motives as to have never questioned why they commence an\u00a0action or how they decide which action to take. My research reveals:<\/p>\n The motivation behind decision, the decisive factor in making every\u00a0active decision and the\u00a0why of all\u00a0desire\u00a0is personal value fulfillment. <\/em><\/p>\n We are pursuing personal value fulfillment whether we choose to minimize perceived\u00a0loss or maximize perceived\u00a0gain of what we personally\u00a0value and want fulfilled in ourselves. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n The conclusion of\u00a0what\u00a0we hold of\u00a0greatest value forms the body called desire. But, here too;\u00a0We desire what\u00a0we value because we value most that which\u00a0affects\u00a0our personal value fulfillment most favorably. Such is the very nature of personal value. <\/em><\/p>\n Our values change and we decide new values\u00a0every day. As we learn our beliefs evolve and\u00a0change. We change values\u00a0whether we are labeled buddhist, christian, agnostic, atheist, nice or mean, altruistically charitable or stingy and self absorbed.<\/p>\n Yet there is always\u00a0one consistency which remains in all realities; Every being identifies that which it calls\u00a0self and within those boundaries; we personally identify that which we\u00a0decide\u00a0value fulfilling.<\/p>\n It is the nature of all consciousness to discern that which it likes or identifies with, and that which it does not. It is the innate pursuit of personal value fulfillment that drives creative expression and the expansion of all\u00a0universes we call reality and within which all\u00a0identify themselves personally in forming each\u00a0unique personality.<\/p>\n We need only believe it to realize it. – BelieveIt 2 RealizeIt<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Additional Study:<\/strong><\/p>\n Psychological Action and Individuality –\u00a0Seth-ES3-Session136-137<\/a><\/p>\n