{"id":1861,"date":"2016-01-02T23:47:48","date_gmt":"2016-01-03T05:47:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/believeit.us\/?page_id=1861"},"modified":"2016-01-02T23:55:50","modified_gmt":"2016-01-03T05:55:50","slug":"the-way-to-love","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/believeit.us\/?page_id=1861","title":{"rendered":"The Way To Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"productDescriptionSource\">The way to love is one of those profound books that keep you coming back to read. My son Samuel introduced it to me early in the new millennium.\u00a0I&#8217;ve read it many times. I&#8217;ve given many a copy to friends. It is especially good at grounding you in beliefs that liberate\u00a0from despair and depression by giving you a good dose of the truth that sets you free.<\/p>\n<p class=\"productDescriptionSource\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/demellospirituality.com\/assets\/components\/demello\/images\/demello1.jpg\" alt=\"Anthony de mello\" width=\"160\" height=\"189\" \/><strong>Anthony de Mello<\/strong> is\u00a0the\u00a0Jesuit Priest known<br \/>\nthroughout the world for his writings and spiritual insights. He\u00a0was director of the Sadhana Institute\u00a0\u00a0of Pastoral Counseling in Poona, India until his death in\u00a01987. Among his many books are <i>Sadhana <\/i>and <i>The Song of the Bird<\/i>. The way to Love was his last and shows that the wisdom of a master does not\u00a0diminish with age.<br \/>\nIn reading or listening, you will\u00a0realize enjoyment of\u00a0his best.<br \/>\n&#8211; BelieveIt 2 RealizeIt<\/p>\n<p class=\"productDescriptionSource\">Most people, he maintained, are asleep. They need to wake up, open up their eyes, see what is real, both inside and outside of themselves.<br \/>\nThe greatest human gift is to be aware, to be in touch with oneself, one&#8217;s body, mind, feelings, thoughts, sensations. Here are some of his typical challenges:<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"productDescriptionSource\">&#8220;Come home yourself! Come back to your senses!<\/h3>\n<h3 class=\"productDescriptionSource\" style=\"padding-left: 60px;\">Do you hear that bird sing?<br \/>\nHow can you hear the song and not hear the singer?<br \/>\nHow can you see the wave and not see the ocean?<br \/>\nHow can you see the dance and not see the dancer?&#8221;<\/h3>\n<h3 class=\"productDescriptionSource\">From the Inside Flap<\/h3>\n<div class=\"productDescriptionWrapper\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><i>The Way To Love<\/i> contains the\u00a0\u00a0final flowering of Anthony de Mello&#8217;s thought, and\u00a0\u00a0in it he grapples with the ultimate question of\u00a0\u00a0love. In thirty-one meditations, he implores his\u00a0\u00a0readers with his usual pithiness to break through\u00a0\u00a0illusion, the great obstacle to love. &#8220;Love\u00a0\u00a0springs from awareness,&#8221; de Mello insists, saying\u00a0\u00a0that it is only when we see others as they are\u00a0\u00a0that we can begin to really love. But not only must\u00a0\u00a0we seek to see others with clarity, we must examine\u00a0\u00a0ourselves without misconception. The task,\u00a0\u00a0however, is not easy. &#8220;The most painful act,&#8221;\u00a0\u00a0de Mello says, &#8220;is the act of seeing. But in\u00a0\u00a0that act of seeing that love is born.&#8221; Anthony\u00a0\u00a0De Mello was the director of the Sadhana Institute\u00a0\u00a0of Pastoral Counseling in Poona, India, and\u00a0\u00a0authored several books. <i>The Way To Love<\/i>\u00a0\u00a0is his last.<\/div>\n<div class=\"productDescriptionWrapper\" style=\"padding-left: 60px;\">\n<p><b><br \/>\nIntroduction by\u00a0<a class=\"authorName\" href=\"http:\/\/www.demellospirituality.com\/keypeople\/francisstroud.html\">Francis Stroud<\/a><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Years ago, when I first heard of Tony de Mello, S.J., I didn\u2019t believe what I heard. The story I am about to tell has bearing on the book you are about to read.<\/p>\n<p>I was told that Tony gave a retreat to sixty fel\u00adlow Jesuit priests and spoke to them six hours a day for eight days. I remember saying, \u201cNo Jesuit listens to another Jesuit six hours a day for eight days.\u201d When the fact was insisted on, I remember asking, \u201cWho made that retreat?\u201d The names of some very impressive Jesuits (impressive, at least, to me) were mentioned. It was then, like doubting Thomas in the Scriptures, I said, \u201cThis I have to see and hear for myself.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Thus began the journey with the man who would affect my life so profoundly that, years later, I wouldn\u2019t even recognize the person I was those years past. And not I alone, but thousands of others like me. &#8230;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>Audio Book Recordings<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/Mixhael-Web-Profile.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1100\" title=\"Realize@Believeit.us\" src=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/Mixhael-Web-Profile.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"196\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I so love the way\u00a0Anthony DeMello communicates the key role played by our\u00a0beliefs,\u00a0that I have recorded this little book\u00a0so I can listen to it time and time again.<\/p>\n<p>As with my writings, so with my recordings; they are created first of all for myself. I do realize however, they can be valuable to others. And so, it is with most\u00a0grateful\u00a0appreciation to Anthony DeMello\u00a0that I share my recordings freely.<\/p>\n<p>Click the links below to enjoy my audio recordings. Feel free to distribute without charge.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/DeMello-WTL\/TheWayToLove-00-Pg1-41.mp3\">The way to love &#8211; Anthony de Mello &#8211; Intro &amp; Pgs. 1-41<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/DeMello-WTL\/TheWayToLove-00-Pg42-93.mp3\">The way to love &#8211; Anthony de Mello &#8211; Pgs. 42-93<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/DeMello-WTL\/TheWayToLove-003-Pg94-130.mp3\">The way to love &#8211; Anthony de Mello &#8211; Pgs. 94-130<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/DeMello-WTL\/TheWayToLove-004-Pg131-end.mp3\">The way to love &#8211; Anthony de Mello &#8211; Pgs. 131-end<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/believeit.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/DeMello-WTL\/APRIL-13-1971-ESP-CLASS-SESSION.pdf\">Perspective on value, desire, love and existence from the view of a non-physical being<br \/>\n<\/a><a style=\"line-height: 1.714285714; font-size: 1rem;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?feature=player_embedded&amp;v=Kn22d-pR8mM\">Desire is cause behind\u00a0expansion of the universe.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Other Videos with Anthony De Mello<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=_b8-B7oAbaA\">10 minute secret to the most important change of your life<\/a>\u00a0(covered in a three hour video)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Support\u00a0<\/strong><br \/>\nPlease, As you realize value in these materials and recognize you want to own authentic books for yourself, If you\u2019re able to share from value you receive, please pay it forward. Purchase\u00a0your own personal copies directly from the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.demellospirituality.com\/store\/bookstore\/\">De Mello Spirituality Center<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The following are my thoughts from reading de Mello&#8217;s\u00a0book:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h3><strong>On\u00a0<\/strong><strong>Suffering and Attachment &#8211;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>When your zeal and the appeal of your Creative Expressions become so attractive that you can not bear to lose what you have created; When you can not even\u00a0consider that they might be lost without suffering anxiety from the thought; when you find yourself suffering at the threat to or at the\u00a0actual experience of\u00a0loss, <strong>you have formed an attachment to your &#8220;Precious&#8221; and that is the\u00a0cause of your\u00a0suffering<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong><em>Yet know this! It is not the attachment or possession of the\u00a0attachment\u00a0that causes suffering.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">It is not your &#8220;precious&#8221; that makes you suffer. \u00a0It is not your relationship or its&#8217; objective possession that holds you to suffer at the thought of loss. \u00a0Rather as with all of the emotions and the experiences we call\u00a0reality, it is belief and it is only our beliefs that can cause us\u00a0to &#8220;feel&#8221; the\u00a0emotions or feelings we experience as suffering.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">As with all experiences, beliefs are beneath\u00a0the\u00a0emotions\u00a0we feel. A certain genre of belief is always beneath\u00a0the experience of suffering no matter what reality you explore or what you discover within the reality you explore. \u00a0Suffering is ALWAYS realized according to\u00a0a\u00a0<em><strong>belief of\u00a0limitation<\/strong>;<\/em> <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">a belief<\/span> that <em><strong>without our precious <\/strong><\/em>(what ever it is)<em><strong> we can not be happy!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>The way to Love<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>For many, the mere\u00a0recognition that suffering results from holding\u00a0a limiting belief is enough for\u00a0them to realize they can\u00a0stop the suffering by simply\u00a0rejecting the limiting belief as an invalid rule to live by and replacing it\u00a0with more empowering beliefs as suggested by De Mello:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Suffering is a temporary state of being, a temporary state of\u00a0mind.<\/li>\n<li>Happiness is\u00a0not conditional or a dependant tenant of reality. It\u00a0does\u00a0NOT depend upon possessing attachments or upon avoiding the\u00a0loss of attachments.<\/li>\n<li>Happiness results from appreciation, it is the natural state of being aware and free to observe appreciatively.<\/li>\n<li>I am happy and will always be happy as I already possess\u00a0the attitude required for\u00a0observing appreciatively, it can never\u00a0be taken away by another\u00a0although we can choose focus our awareness else where and ignore it.<\/li>\n<li>I can recognize and appreciate attachments as such and do not necessarily need to eliminate them in order to bring about the elimination\u00a0of suffering, and<\/li>\n<li>While I have attachments,\u00a0I can appreciate and enjoy them all as &#8220;my precious&#8221; \u00a0creative expressions, knowing and accepting that<\/li>\n<li>When I lose what I once created,\u00a0I will always appreciate the value I enjoyed in them and find value and joy in the discovery of the others also worthy of appreciation that will follow.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This is certainly true, and we can absolutely enjoy many\u00a0life times appreciating all that we can imagine,\u00a0express creatively, physically\u00a0observe and release like catch and release fishing. For within the\u00a0fuller reality of our eternal souls, all experiences are psychological actions that, like thoughts and\u00a0memories,\u00a0can never\u00a0truly be lost once experienced.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Beliefs are only thoughts we hold true of reality<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Like lego building blocks, we find value in changing beliefs and seeing all that can be created\u00a0and experienced in the process. We can change and manipulate our beliefs like De Mello suggests and experience life to a\u00a0greater degree of well being.\u00a0We can overcome suffering and enjoy a life richer\u00a0than we know.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Emotions show agreement and dis-agreement<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Our\u00a0emotions always reflect the resonance of our beliefs. They only reveal accord or discord between beliefs. To experience emotion, we merely need to contrast\u00a0one belief with another. If they are supportive of each other, they resonate and we feel the harmony of their agreement. When two consciously contemplated beliefs are opposed to each other and not in agreement, we feel the disharmony of their discord, we feel their conflict as the unpleasant emotions.<\/p>\n<p>If one of our contrasted beliefs is that we value something desired, a contrasting belief that the &#8220;valued something&#8221;\u00a0is threatened is felt as discordant emotion when we focus our awareness upon them. \u00a0A belief that our desired &#8220;precious&#8221; is threatened is always sensed\u00a0as the discord we call the\u00a0emotion of suffering, agony, and despair. One or the other\u00a0are experienced according to the degree or intensity we believe the threat certain and the degree or intensity we believe we desire the &#8220;valued something&#8221; that is threatened.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Limitations provide contrast<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>We all loath limitations and we find great fulfillment in going beyond and overcoming them. We&#8217;ve programmed our personalities to be driven by desires. We&#8217;ve done this through the adoption\u00a0of beliefs that regard or perceive that which we give preference to as\u00a0desired and highly\u00a0prized while we hold the belief\u00a0the undesired or absence of the desired is perceived as\u00a0despised. \u00a0Our\u00a0beliefs that things desired are valued and that it is important for us to pursue them is a fundamental, key, and core belief required for us to\u00a0experience physical reality as it was intended\u00a0to be experienced. \u00a0These core beliefs provide the mental constructs that give form and structure to\u00a0our\u00a0perceptive observations so that our observations\u00a0provide the kind of reality experience we expect of\u00a0physical life.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, all\u00a0life quests and the sake behind all of\u00a0life&#8217;s pursuits is to acquire and expand our being with value fulfilling increase. In this physical reality, those are identified as valued and\u00a0desired. We are driven to identify or discern the preferences of desire so that in so doing we can appreciate the contrast between the preferred and the not.<\/p>\n<p>So, even suffering is\u00a0good. \u00a0Maybe I can say it is\u00a0<em>essential<\/em> when we consider the role it plays in helping us appreciate that which we discern preference toward. Suffering\u00a0provides the contrast required for us to\u00a0clearly see the value appreciated that resides with our creative expressions and NOT within that which is to be avoided.<\/p>\n<p>A\u00a0belief that suffering should\u00a0be experienced when a discerned preference is threatened or lost may be as important a basic belief to\u00a0enjoyment and appreciation as the\u00a0belief that something is desired. \u00a0Certainly without contrast, no discernment of preference is\u00a0possible.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, and for the purpose\u00a0that we might enjoy value fulfilling increase, we have learned (acquired a belief) to associate the lack of value fulfilling\u00a0increase as loathsome\u00a0and\u00a0that we should avoid and even recoil at the very thought we might\u00a0lose a value fulfillment once acquired. \u00a0It is so important that we\u00a0percept value in the desired that its opposite is perceived as painful and suffering. The very core of our nature and I might add the very foundation to which we able to\u00a0associate value with any\u00a0experience, mandates association of the lower painful emotions with the loss of value fulfillment acquired or\u00a0even the failure to obtain what\u00a0was perceived as within grasp of possession.<\/p>\n<p>We feel the emotion of suffering when we view ourselves as about to lose that which we desire. Yet we only suffer because of a belief that loss must produce suffering or we have a belief that we <em>want<\/em> loss of things valued to produce an emotion of suffering. There is NO other rule; you create your own realities according to your beliefs! We&#8217;ve created suffering for the purpose that we might have the contrast it provides to enjoyment and appreciation of lifes greatest value fulfilling\u00a0experiences.<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately\u00a0the key to <em>experiencing\u00a0<\/em>true value fulfillment from De Mello&#8217;s\u00a0<em>The Way to Love<\/em> lies in our ability to recognize the interplay of beliefs and to hold them consciously in such balance that our desired experiences\u00a0are\u00a0realized to their\u00a0fullest. \u00a0It&#8217;s all then about our conscious awareness and discriminating a biased\u00a0perspective to live within the beliefs that empower us to the experiences we prefer.<\/p>\n<p>Of such is the\u00a0nature of our\u00a0true reality. \u00a0We\u00a0possess the vehicle and are in possession\u00a0of the controls. The experience of a value fulfilling reality waits for nothing but a\u00a0biased focus of our consciousness awareness fixing\u00a0our gaze upon those of\u00a0our\u00a0beliefs that empower and perceive us as being\u00a0in possession of that which we most desire.<br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">If you believe, all things are possible<\/span> &#8211; Mark 9;23<\/p>\n<p>You need\u00a0only \u00a0&#8211; BelieveIt 2 RealizeIt!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The way to love is one of those profound books that keep you coming back to read. My son Samuel introduced it to me early in the new millennium.\u00a0I&#8217;ve read it many times. I&#8217;ve given many a copy to friends. 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